“Backspace, n.
1. a key on a typewriter or computer keyboard that causes the carriage or cursor to move backward.”

— oxforddictionaries.com

Before cursers of a computer there was a carriage, before the carriage of a typewriter there was an eraser, and before the eraser of a pencil there was...

When one spoke, the words had a meaning and a weight.  When one wrote, those words too, had a meaning and a weight.  Why?

Language and communication is the foundation of any and all cultures.  It is the all encompassing of ‘how’ we relate to each other and convey that sense of 'relativity'. We long for relativity and understanding. It is innate within, and although, capable of being ignored, not a need that can be ignored without significant damage.

Feral children who grow without language and communication are the direct results from a need of ‘language/communication’ ignored or forgotten, or simply not known.
So why, in cultures and communities where everything had significant meaning to the life and breath of a people, have we now succumbed to 'backspace?'

Artists are too quick to backspace over their work.  "That wasn't it" they say.

Without second thought to the process.

They delete.

"Not worth showing” She says as she hides a canvas and eventually it lands in a dumpster heap.  As he quiets his singing voice and eventually it becomes voiceless.

We are a culture of 'Backspacing'.  We have gotten so used to editing out 'freeform' communication that suddenly words are void and lack meaning.  Promises are not promises but merely half hearted well wishes. 

And I have seen the destruction of "Backspace" in life.  Too many people have said and not done.  Smiled but not been sincere.

Where once a world was spun on the belief of the Word, now a world is disintegrating into the denial of the Word.

Words have weight.

Weight is in the Word.

Grasp it and don't backspace.

Say with meaning.

And wait for the meaning.

Soak in the meaning.

Give grace to the meaning.

Express without backspacing and let us see where that takes the work.

©2014 Jeremy Lai

“Draft, n.
1. a preliminary version of a piece of writing. A plan, sketch, or rough drawing”

— oxforddictionaries.com

Being in the beginning of drafts for different projects means being in the 'beginning' stages.  The stages where talk seems pretentious and the end can seem far away.  

So let me tell you a secret because no one else is going to tell you.

Drafts are sexy.  Seriously, the most sexy!  A draft is like a chance meeting with a sudden whirlwind affair.  Not an illicit affair.   Those never end well, but the type of love affair that sends you into doing things you never thought you would, and suddenly, you fall head over heels you end up walking down the aisle.  Committing your heart and soul.

I know, I know.  Some of those commitment-phobes have already clicked to the next blog post.

 A love affair that turns into commitment?  

"No way!" they say as they move onto the next alluring project proposal.

They miss out on committing to something that would have been.

Should have been.

Could have been.

Truthfully.

The best part of a project is when you are working on it.  The end is never as satisfying as working pell mell, chasing, running and trying to woo it, romance it into being. 

Drafts mean one doesn't have the answers nor the right set path to go about the project.  It means that one is often left with pieces of thoughts scattered about like an absent minded puzzle.  It takes the whole journey through to figure out how all the pieces fit together and that... is the mysterious allure of those who take on a project in drafts. 

It is an enticing sexy adventure that one should never shy away from.

A few weeks ago, I was told to add a question on the end of an article.  To spark dialogue, interest and thoughts.  

©2014 Jeremy Lai

I watched the question stay unanswered.  A scary thing for a writer. 

Creators, artists, writers...any one who puts their work out in the open is ultimately asking a question and then...they wait.  Wait for a response and wait for validation.

Validation.  What is it?

We like to think the response to our question is the ultimate validation, but lets be honest.... if someone responds we feel validated for a moment, maybe long enough to be a day or a week...or even a month...but that wears off, and what stands is the question we asked in the first place. For it to be answered again, again and again.

Someone asked me

"When will you be done with that 'topic'?  

And the question I pose through my work resounds again and again in my beating heart as I reply

"Until I am done asking it."

And that is the ultimate goal.  To never back down on asking the things that make others cringe, that some would shush and ask not to speak of.  The questions of the raw and honest are often the questions of the masses.

So ask.

Again

And again,

And again,

And

Again.

GUEST POST FOR http://oneword365.com

We have been walking into 2014 for some weeks now and we are seeing sparks of life. Developments in our ‘one words’ , in our lives and hearts.  That is what happens when we look for change and open ourselves up to adventure.  We begin to thirst for it, look for it and hunt for it.  When you do that, it is hard pressed not to find it.

Development comes to those who are craving it.  And I am one of the cravers.  Together we call our one words into the air and we watch.  We await for what that will mean, and already we begin to see. 

The thing with claiming, declaring and shouting our victory words to the sky, is that we feel bold, brave and strong.  We feel and we are.  But the dark lies of this world do not want us to feel that way and suddenly we are doubting, wishing we could grab those letters that make that ‘one word’ back into our mouths, our hearts and our spirits.  Stuff them back deep inside.  

“Don’t declare!  Who are you to declare a word over your own life?” the doubting whisper says.

And I begin to feel a fraud.  I begin to feel panic rise up through to my throat, bubbling up like unwanted vomit.  My body is trying to purge the word. 

I claimed the word FIRE and see no one else with this word.  I feel odd and maybe even crazy.  But I press on, I work hard through the first month of the word and see it manifest itself in amazing ways, and yet on the last day of the first month I lean against a flame and my hair goes on fire.  Only for a split second, but enough to make the women in the room scream, my heart to sink and my ‘fire’ word to scare me.  To panic me. 

But I read “The Artist Way”  books by Julia Cameron and write down her words.

 “Your panic does not mean you are crazy, just that you feel it.”

“You are panicked, tell yourself, ‘Ah!  Good sign, I am getting unstuck.”

“This means that at our most awkward and ill at ease, we are still in divine order and moving ever closer to Gods intention.” 

I put down my pen and begin to breathe easy, and the sighs of relief flood my spirit.  

Panic is okay.  My most awkward and ill at ease is right.  

“If that isn’t prophetic I don’t know what is!”  A friend who witnessed that moment of ‘fire-awkward’ said to me as we brushed the charred bits out of my hair. 

I had a hard time shaking that, because our words are not easy to swallow.  They challenge and they declare things we had no idea they would declare.  And that is how it is with words.  They are more than you plan them to be and they will take you to a place you need to go.

Panic that rises from the core of your being and begins to tumble out isn’t something to be ashamed of.  Work through the word that you declared over your life and don’t give yourself room to doubt it. Panic tells you you are heading in the right direction, most ignore, but we charge through and find the glory of our words, ablaze and alive.  

How has your ‘one-word’ caught on fire and panicked you?

©2014 Jeremy Lai

To throw a spear you have to pull your arm back.  To jump you have to bend down.  To swallow you have to chew.  To exhale you have to inhale. 

The opposite of what you want to do.  

Why do we have to do the opposite to do our intended act? Why is it necessary to ground down into the earth with our legs, toes and whole physical force before we can release and jump?

In writing this can look like:

Indent verb 1. (a line of text) or position (a block of text, table etc.) further from the margin than the main part of the text. 

noun 1. a space left by indenting a line or block of text

To indent before you paragraph.  To go inside the lines, before you can write out lines.

When a writer writes dialogue in the form of a book, they indent or press 'Tab' once.  This indicates a new speaker, a new thought or a new journey through words.  

      An indent.  Leaving space before the words begin.  Why is it that we have to leave space before we write?

There is a preparation in doing the opposite.

     When we leave that space for words, we grab onto a preparing, a propelling, a breath before we move.  We couldn't speak without inhaling and we couldn't throw a ball without pulling it backwards before we propel it forwards.

Taking time to prepare.  It's a stage that artists, creators, writers...anyone, can struggle with.  The in-breath is often the hardest, the out-breath, it follows as ease.  Every action has a reaction.

Let your action be the preparation.

The reaction of your work will follow like an exhale. 

Goal: An open invitation to all Creative and Innovative Women. An open space for artists to share, be inspired and have a safe place to be surrounded by like minds.

We started out with this goal last January and now this year we are taking that goal into a new form. A form of intentionally 'led' discussions and more structure to give a better space and time for the more unstructured tangents that creatives can fall into.

©2014 Nicole Payzant

The Rabbit Hole of Wonderland is often how I describe these tangents to myself. They are everything we should want to fall into as artists, to capture the magic of thought, discussion, ideas and projects. The question of Rabbit Holes, is how to take the time before the fall, to enhance the wonderland experience by allowing intentional discussion?

We opened up the night with a question. "What gets you off the couch/inspires you to create?"

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©2014 Nicole Payzant

The answers we found were varied and many:

• Group projects, collaboration inspires: Sharing what is learned. 
• Words of Inspiration 
• Music, mood music
• Coffee! Talking with people about ideas, helping me develop them.
• Being around passionate people.
• Relating to people
• Changing it up: Challenging self in different styles/ventures
• Meanings not yet quantified, the journey to understand the not understood. 

©2014 Nicole Payzant

Creative and Innovative women/people and even those who haven't identified themselves as such yet, all have dreams, goals and visions. Those things may be identified and at other times may be somewhere inside yet still unknown.

Setting aside the time to work on one of those few things can be the ultimate gift for your inner-self. Even if you don't have a vision yet, taking that time, to write, paint, doodle, list, bake, sing, etc more routinely is an excellent way to spark the energy of the goal. 

We ended with a challenge. The challenge to dig deeper into dreams and visions and write them down. Putting words to your own goal or project, 'Titling' as I called it in an earlier article is exactly what will kickstart creatives and innovators to working and producing.

We delved into sharing and had a wonderful time of honest reflection on each woman's work. Some of us are studying, others are grappling with the inner-creative, and others are coming upon projects that need to be named and focused in on.

What I have learned from this month, is that no one can predict what will happen when you get creative women in a room and start discussing and asking. Falling down the Rabbit Hole to Wonderland is inevitable. My challenge and question now for this group, will be how to direct these evenings in a way that makes the Rabbit Hole to Wonderland a productive journey for all those in the room.

Setting up a flexible structure that every woman will feel safe, challenged, supported and uplifted.

©2014 Nicole Payzant

©2014 Jeremy Lai

Each of a pair of marks [ ] used to enclose words or figures so as to separate them from the context: symbols are given inbrackets.

Every writer (myself included) uses brackets.   It is a way to say something that is attached to the sentence, yet separate from the thought.  An on the side. 

What do we find inside our life brackets?

Fear

Enclosed in these pair of marks, separating self from the context is that deep, panic-filled anxiousness that what is being stated is not worth it.  A dark excuse to not continue.  To stop.

Having brackets to fall back into feels good (I admit...it is a comfort).  As a writer, it is the excuse, the explanation for giving up on the rest of the work.

There are a lot of people in this world living life just (inside the brackets).  There is a whole other part before and after the brackets that give the 'fear' and 'anxiousness' true meaning.

The growing pains of moving outside the brackets are strong but needed.  

Anxious is good, it means one is going somewhere.  

We all have moments of panic.  If panic is related to new work, a new idea or something that is just beginning, it is a symptom of moving forward.  Stop moving forward and the panic will go away.  

“When you are panicked tell yourself, ‘Ah! Good sign. I am getting unstuck.’”

— Cameron, J. (2002). Walking in This World.

Taking the first step on the Art Night project and posting it at the end of this week will be scary and a battle with anxious feelings has been had.  I must step out of my comfortable place (That spot on the couch with tea steaming, books piling, notebook and pen at reach) after witnessing the women who have attended these monthly gatherings grow, change and feel moved by the discussion.  I know that it has a purpose bigger than this living room.  

Taking Art Nights out of the brackets this week is a byamygrace labour of love and those involved in pushing this project forward are the very strong and supportive individuals we want to see connect to the growth of these nights, cirriculum and vision.  

Check the Art Night Link this weekend for an update on how Januarys Meeting went. 

Everything has a title.  Everything has a name of some kind.  

Anything that is a story has a title, and every title is attached to a story.  Titles can be hard to find, and fear of the 'thing' to be titled is the reason that projects and stories alike stay un-done.  Untitled.  

©2014 Jeremy Lai

Untitled is a lack of commitment, a fear of what the 'it' contains.

Lack of commitment.  

A reason for any relationship or project breakdown.  

Stare at a blank screen, knowing...deep down, that to give 'this' a title means to commit to it.  And committing is hard, in fact, it is one of the hardest things to overcome.  If commitment was easy, then everyone would be perfect examples of success. 

Because to commit is success.  Success isn't acknowledgment or to be known for a piece of work.  It is the commitment to the inspiration that landed in your mind and spirit.  It is the denial of fear and the ability to title what may seem scary to title that becomes the success.

byamygrace didn't happen overnight.  It was the inspiration of prodding over a long time, but committing to a title for this website has changed it's purpose, drive and focus.  

Titles bring clarity, and clarity brings hope.  Hope is the light which filters into ones spirit and all souls rejoice with hope.  It breathes free and wants to live.

So really, a title is about life.  

To be untitled is death.  Death of a project, death of a story.

Titled is life. 

To Title means it lives.

Words make up a sentence.  A sentence makes up a paragraph, and a paragraph makes up a page.  All those pages make up something, someone thought was worth reading.

Why read?  Why put anything down at all?  

Words on page put something we dare to attempt uncovering, discovering, and demystifying out in the open. They become accessible, tangible, real, raw and honest.

Word : (noun) a single distinct meaningful element of speech or writing, used with others (or sometimes alone) to form a sentence and typically shown with a space on either side when written or printed. 

oneword365.com has given a concept to grow through a 365 day journey with just one word.

"One word that sums up who you want to be or how you want to live. One word that you can focus on every day, all year long.

It will take intentionality and commitment, but if you let it, your one word will shape not only your year, but also you. It will become the compass that directs your decisions and guides your steps.

Discover the big impact one word can make." - http://oneword365.com

For this writer, a word has emmerged, before I knew of the one word vision.  Before I knew that there was a movement to intentionally one word, one was already being chosen. 

FIRE (noun) combustion or burning, in which substances combine chemically with oxygen from the air and typically give out bright light, heat, and smoke

As a writer, fire doesn't mean death, it means everything that is risked when you walk into fear.

FIRE burns artists into gold.

FIRE ignites truth

A 365 Day journey into refining this writer.

Risking it all for the refining of fire.

©2012 Nicole Payzant

When things shift it is necessary to turn a page.  This first post is a written realization of a page I turned that didn't continue.  In fact, it ended.  And the next page was a new chapter.

As a writer I am very aware of chapters and what they may mean.  A chapter pulls a story further ahead, it is the continuation, but also the conduit for the next 'thing',  

Starting byAmyGrace has been the unfolding process of this new chapter and I have been working hard to reign myself in.  To make sure that I am staying focused on my theatre training, projects and personal life.  Recognizing a need for a place to work off from has created byAmyGrace into a website and an idenity.  

In every chapter there is usually a discovery, something we didn't know.  This has definitely surprised and delighted me, giving a great deal of direction and definition into my next words.  I could not be writing this if it wasn't for my inspirational team that drive me forward.  Jasmine Alexander, Jeremy Lai, Nicole Payzant and Tyler Bennicke are all various artists who have helped me define and hone in on what my vision is.  Their work is sprinkled throughout my own and I would be remiss if I didn't acknowledge and thank them for their continued support. 

Each week I will be writing about what discoveries, struggles and thoughts I have through the process of being an artist and pulling other artists alongside me in these initiatives.  Join me as I attempt to put words into thought, thoughts into ideas, ideas into concepts, concepts into projects and projects into action.  

No artist can do it alone, and I clearly recognize the need to be intentionally interactive with those around me.  

This chapter will be the beginning of many chapters to follow, and that, perhaps is the most exciting concept of all.

Since the beginning of 2014 I began writing two nights a week on a concept that has been simmering for a year.

 All writers need to protect their work and give it the space and time it needs but I hope to bring you all with me in the process of this story.  This is an attempt at a fictional look of light and dark.  What it means to be deceived, live a lie, and then learn to live the truth and tell it. 

To date, I have experienced five "Write Nights" and have been surprised by every turn these characters have taken.  I am continually amazed by how showing up to write brings this concept to a more vibrant place than I could have imagined. 

I look forward to sharing this experience with you. 

©2014 Jeremy Lai