We are not always afforded the ease and simplicity that comes with arranging time together, but I have learned that quality time doesn’t have to be a large commitment with one another.

It can also be the simple things, that build up to so much more.

Texts

Simple, meaningful texts when you are thinking of someone in the midst of your busy day can do wonders for yourself and the other person. It’s not about trying to maintain a large amount of back and forth but when words are genuine, they have the ability to warm someone deeply.

Quick Meet Ups

Having a quick chat over the length of time it takes to consume a beverage is a perfect way to connect amidst the business. It doesn’t have to be long, but a simple way to get quality is to enjoy a quick drink and treat together and then go on with the rest of the day. Be it morning, mid day or evening.

Shared Activities

Doing something routinely with someone is a great way to connect on a deeper level. With my daughter during this winter season it’s learning how to read and skating. We often share in a treat of some sort after skating and it means so much to us to laugh and indulge together. With another friend it’s gushing over a book and television series, with an aunt it’s all things bookish.

Planning Ahead

Not everyone can plan ahead (parents of young children, care givers, anyone on call) but generally speaking, so many missed moments occur when we don’t plan ahead. Life will always have something trying to pull your attention away and to make the most out of things, planning ahead helps us to set aside time in advance and intentionally treasure the time we have together.

Change is the one constant in our lives together.

We have learned how to grow and change together and to continue to find that theme in every passing month and year.

Every couple has there ‘loop’. The default settings of how we were raised, our personalities and genetic makeup. That being said, the longer you are together you have two choices. You either submit to the loop and allow it to control you, or you work to stay aware of the loop and allow it to inform you.

Over the past year with our home renovations and many personal situations that have overtaken our lives we have been faced again with that loop and given the opportunity to talk it out and find togetherness amidst the insane world.

I have watched my partner sink deep into the responsibility of this home renovation, while putting his all into his professional career and encouraging me in my own. We have worked hard to find corners of our lives to reconnect and that is everything.

We have no idea where this next decade of our lives as individuals and as a couple are taking us (30’s-40’s) , but we both find an anchoring in our lives together and I would say, that it is the anchoring in our togetherness that allows us to flourish as individuals.

I am so intrigued by this next season of our lives.

Off we go.